You may have questions like this in your mind: Am I destined to spend life alone again? Is my relationship headed for doom? What can I do to save my relationship? Instead of lamenting and thinking that things have gone worst, why not find ways to make things better for you?
The most important thing you should do is to first decide whether your relationship is worth keeping. Keeping a relationship intact must involve the two parties. Both partners must be committed to save their relationship. If it happens that one of you does not want to reignite your love, you alone can’t do anything about it.
If you are in marriage for convenience or for the sake of the children, it is not enough. If there is no love in your marriage, there is no guarantee that your relationship will last. To have a lasting relationship, communication lines must be opened and both parties must be committed to save the relationship. Then the next step will be to determine the problems in your relationship. A big obstacle in saving any relationship is that a lot of people tend to think that the symptoms are the problems.
If for instance, an extramarital affair is a problem that can lead to breakups, then that affair is the symptom of a bigger problem. Again, a lack of intimacy or affection may lead the spouse or partner to seek intimacy elsewhere. There are several cases whereby working too much has led other party to seek love with other people. It is very important to tackle the main problem. Once you start dealing with the primary problem instead of the symptoms, before you know it, your relationship can be saved.
By the time you have identified the core problems, you can then start sharing your thoughts with your spouse. At this moment, both of you should be talking to each other on how you feel for each other. Each of you should also try to listen to each other’s concern and if it can be possible, both of you should try to hold hands while you talk, even if it is just a way to reconnect. All these could help to get things better in the relationship.
After you have gotten the details of your relationship problems, you can now make a plan to solve them. Some people will like to put their solutions in writing. This can help but putting them in action is a lot better. You can try having a date night every week where you can be having heart-to-heart communication with each other. Lastly, one fact you must know is that, saving your relationship or marriage is a continuous process. It is possible that you will experience some setbacks.